"I AIN'T MAD AT CHA"

It's freeing once you detach from outcomes you once wanted so badly. 

Detachment is one of the most painful, yet essential chapters of the healing process. 

True healing is from the inside out. We've been taught to protect our outer selves, while our inner selves are dying.

*THIS QUOTE IS FROM THE BOOK THE SEVEN SPIRITUAL LAWS OF SUCCESS. READ IT. IT'S ON THE HOT GIRL BOOK CLUB LIST*

It's time to let go. You're reading this because, like me, you need to hear it too. 

Detach from relationships, outcomes, perceptions of others; all of it. 

Quit giving your power away to those around you or situations you can't control. It's so draining for what? I promise you, once you remove your worth from the attachments you once had, that's when your life will begin. Start living for you.

A great example of this is in dating. Yuck, I know, but trust me, keep reading it'll be worth it.

We all claim to want a love this generation isn't capable of, yet we are the ones who single-handedly created the new standard of dating. 

Think about that. 

Casually dating can really be a great experience, when it's done the right way in my opinion.

Our twenties are meant for us to figure out who we are and what it is we want. As we meet new people, we are able to determine what we will and will not tolerate as well as what we are looking for in a partner or relationship. 

You can learn something from each connection you make, that's the beauty of it. But the most effective way to do this when casually dating is to learn from a connection without forming an attachment; to the person or the label. It's not easy, but it's not supposed to be. If it was, then we'd all would have found our person by now and you wouldn't be reading this post about dating now would you? BFFR.

Just give them and yourself reality from the jump. Make your intentions, standards, and expectations crystal clear. If that person doesn't meet them, it's not the end of the world. You're going to attract love, the right one for you. You don't have to pretend or falsify. The people you're aligned with will find you. Detach from the chase and start appreciating the people you meet, and make note of what they teach you; directly or indirectly. We are no longer forcing any connections that do not feel genuine. Learn from it and move the fuck on. 

No hard feelings. 

No resentment. 

No attachment. 

MAJOR TAKEAWAY:

Attachment = Suffering

Detachment = Freedom