THE TWO-HANDED CIRCLE

This circle is sacred. 

It is made up of just you and your person.

That's it.

Once you two join hands, no one is allowed in and nothing is allowed out.

What does this look like?

When you make the unified decision to create this circle with your partner, you are choosing to protect your relationship from the world. No outside projection or judgement can tamper with your circle if your hands remain together. Nothing can influence the decisions you make with your partner or how you react to your partner. Your concerns do not go beyond the embrace you share with your partner. 

You feel angry or upset and need to express it? Tell your partner. 

You need advice on a major decision you need to make? Discuss it with your partner. 

Have the worst day at work? Confide in your partner.

Accomplish a goal you've been working towards? Celebrate with your partner

Have an argument with your partner? Resolve it with your partner.

 See the pattern here babe?

I hate to be the one to tell you this but when you vent to others about your relationship or the person you're dating, that two-handed, sacred circle of trust loses its value once it is broken. Vents lead into other rooms in your house don't they? Imagine how fast or far the negative information you shared about your relationship travels into rooms you didn't even know had access to the same vent you used...

Not only does this reflect poorly on you and your relationship, but it also will begin to change how your partner is viewed as well. 

The bond you create with your partner should be your most valuable connection you make and maintain. Only discuss your relationship with one another. Do not let others plant ideas in your head about a connection they have no experience in, even if they claim it sounds similar to theirs, I promise you it isn't. Each connection you make should be held to its own standards and valued for what it is. Everyone you meet is different. Each connection you make is unique to you and that person. Remember that. No one has what you two do in your circle, so why would you allow them to penetrate what you have so carefully built? 

Do not seek information about your relationship outside of it. That makes zero sense. Only you know how you feel and only you know how to express that to your partner effectively. You have a gut feeling for a reason, and if a connection is drawing you towards it, lock in. Build the circle to the best of your ability. Trust that if your circle is not meant to be, it'll begin to break on its own, and you will know. But at least you can tell yourself that you gave it all you could; physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. 

Learn from it and heal. If you need to, create a circle of your own. Look down, God gave you two hands didn’t he? 

Lock in and focus on you. All the things you sought from your partner can be given to yourself. 

Celebrate yourself.

Confide in yourself.

Resolve conflict yourself.

Make decisions by yourself. 

Vent to yourself. Or a tree, I heard they love that shit.

Moral of the two-handed circle theory is this:

DON'T LET EVERYONE KNOW YOUR BUSINESS. 

IT'S YOUR BUSINESS FOR A REASON.

YOU KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU.