sometimes absence is necessary babe

or is it? 

idk lowkey crashing out over this one

 i’ll be back soon hopefully with my full thoughts 

ok so update, I'm back!

absence may be necessary at times, but I've come to question why do we have to lose something in the first place to recognize its inherent value?

why don't we see what we have until it's gone? why does missing someone or something only trigger good memories to flood back to us? are our minds playing tricks on us?

it's like suddenly there were no bad times and you wish you were back in that time and place with that person or thing again. why can we not be happy in the present moment and grateful for who and what we have? is it so hard to recognize how blessed we truly are? 

I think the first step is to be more intentional not only within relationships with other people but also yourself. be present, be here now. be grateful for all that you have and all that you are because change is inevitable babe. jobs change, people change, locations change, and feelings change too. 

let the people in your life know how much you love and care about them. losing a good person is so common in this generation because we are all under the impression that we have "unlimited options" when it comes to friends or romantic connections. unfortunately once those people do not feel valued they're gone and there is no getting them back. same with your favorite piece of jewelry or go to dish at a restaurant; you only want to wear it when you can't find it or crave it once it's taken off the menu. 

absence allows you to see what you one had and miss it, but at some point it's too late to try to go back to the version of you that had it. space can be healthy, but the better option in my opinion is to practice gratitude in the moment so you miss it less later. then you'll be at peace knowing you valued what you had when it was your time to have it. no regrets and nothing lost, but instead its worth remained in its destined time and place. 

detach from that thing or person you miss so much, as well as the version of you that had it. allow this time of absence teach you how to be without it, learn the lesson it presents, and be grateful for the experience. this is when it is necessary babe, for you to simply learn from it and keep it pushing. 

I won't lie to you, it's not easy, trust me! I've been stuck in this loop for a minute now but I'm realizing if I don't learn from it, I will continue to be in misery which is so ass! why do we choose to make ourselves miserable missing the past instead of being excited of what's to come? promise me you won't make the same mistake I have been and instead choose optimism over ruminating. your mindset is everything and the past only exists if you give it energy to remember that babe.